#Sexually exclusive but not committed code#

You’ve shared a photo on your socialsĬouples selfie on the ‘Gram? Tagging them in it? Hundreds of likes from both sets of friends? Zero sarcastic comments underneath, even from your dimmest mates? Welcome to exclusive-Ville, population: you two.

#Sexually exclusive but not committed code#

‘We’ is a thingĭiscussing any kind of future plans and using “we” is exclusivity code for “I have deleted Tinder and now you are my world.” Unless it’s “we are breaking up”, of course. You’re much more chill because you assume you’ll be with them. Most singletons will do anything they can to avoid a weekend that’s not packed to the hilt with plans – whatever it takes to keep the solitude at bay. Instead of the forced smile you give to baristas, traffic wardens and your boss, this will be a genuine “uh oh, why are the sides of my mouth spasming, am I going to be OK” full-on smile. Oh, so you usually go to the gym four nights a week, do you? Saying no to that pint and going for a spirit and mixer instead? Smoothie in the morning instead of your usual bacon sandwich? You’re preening, so they won’t want anyone else – because neither do you! You’re genuinely excited to see themĪnd not just because of the sex. Which, in itself, is a sign they’re on your mind and, thus, maybe it’s time to make it official.

If your pals have repeated this guy or girl’s name back to you in a comedy voice, accused you of being lovebirds, or made kissing noises whenever you mention them, that’s a sign you’ve been banging on about them. You’ve started mentioning them to your mates – and they’ve noticed It’s not even that there’s anything wrong with these people, you just can’t face starting something new when you’re already quite far into a situation you don’t feel the need to change. Why not, eh? But now, you turn away, leaving your admirer gawping at your back like a stunned mullet. Not too long ago, you’d be chancing it and responding to that glad-eye from across the bar. Whether to their face or to someone else, if you’re calling them your boyfriend or girlfriend (and you’ve not already discussed being open) then monogamy is knocking at your door. Nature will out, though, and even the biggest commitment-phobe would struggle to deny it’s time to talk exclusivity if three or more of these rear their head: You’ve already blurted out they’re your boyfriend or girlfriend Dating in the digital age means way more options than ever before, and some of us are reluctant to let them go to get serious with one person.